flow — don’t force
lately, i’ve been learning a great deal about this topic of allowing life flow versus forcing something to happen. i spent the majority of my life living from a place of mental toiling. overthinking. attempting to figure out what would happen next and trying to make my environment conform to the insecurity i was feeling. allowing my emotions to overtake me and lead me in emotional turmoil.
honestly, it was a struggle to break free within this area of my life. even as i sit here and type this, i was simply led to share what has been on my heart. i’m simply grateful to be a vessel to share my experience and wisdom—from a place of ease.
we all want to live with a sense of certainty. this can extend to the direction of our day, our sense of purpose in life, and even if we are loved and cared for. we are born with the desire for certainty. however—as we learn and grow, we become aware of the sudden changes that happen in life and the inconsistency of it all. as someone who is very organized and loves to plan, learning how to be flexible while being uncomfortable has been a challenge for me.
what i’ve come to learn is to live in balance. once i understood what was in my control versus what was out of my control, i began to live life at a state of ease. and when i’m not in that state, i am intentional to tend to what will help me feel safe, supported, and grounded within that moment of time. my responsibility is to simply show up as who i am and to do what i know i am capable of doing. if it is out of my hands, then it deserves freedom from my mind. the more i try to control a thing, the more it will control and overtake me. flowing doesn't mean there’s no effort or work ethic as you show up in your life. it means you maximize your time and energy each day—and give what you have the capacity to give. when your mind, body, and soul call for you to rest—listen. wisdom calls for us to humble ourselves and take care of what is in our realm of control. don’t overthink and try to figure things out. breathe. let it flow. show up as best as you can.
i made two lists, one of things i can control and what i cannot control. wherever you are in this time of your life, i encourage you to do the same. ♡
things i can control:
my words
my behavior
my boundaries
how i show up
the rhythm of my breath
how i respond
how i spend my time
what i invest my energy into
things i cannot control:
the past/future
what other people say, do or think
the unpredictability of life
add to one or both lists by leaving a comment ♡
